I've cheated on my spouse! Doctor please help me! Check me into rehab!
Tiger went to rehab. Jesse James is in rehab. Even Charlie Sheen is in rehab. Seriously, people. Do you really think the problem lies in an addiction to sex? Whatever happened to good old-fashioned values? Whatever happened to "til death do us part"? Whatever happened to "I'm sorry but I'm married"?
Addicted to sex? Whatever. All human beings are addicted to sex. It is ingrained in us to ensure survival of our species. Do these men really think they are enjoying something more than the rest of our species?
Perhaps there is more to the rehab than just curing an addiction to sex. Perhaps they help their patients with basic morals and values. Hopefully they find out what these people are missing in their lives that propels them to self-destruct.
When they find out what's missing, I hope they share it with the rest of the species. This addiction is spreading.
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Here we go again!!
As a society haven’t we read enough about Tiger Woods to be sick of hearing about the infidelities of famous people? I know that I have, personally. The newest scandal revolves around the affair of Jesse James, husband of Sandra Bullock. This story seems to mirror the Tiger Woods controversy. Franky, I could care less.
What I really want to talk about are the women that are having affairs with these married men. The “mistresses” of Tiger Woods have been in the spotlight as much as Tiger. They have been rewarded with notoriety for their actions. The same can be said if the “girlfriends” of Jesse James. I have stated in a previous blog that I do not feel sorry for these men. Multiply that emotion by a thousand to see how I feel about the women they are sleeping with!
Why do these women feel the need to have an affair with a married man? Do they think they will become famous? Do they think the men will actually leave their wives for them? Was their childhood so troubled that they need to act out against society’s norms to achieve pleasure? Did their parents not teach them right from wrong? Did they witness their own father’s having affairs? I would love to have an in depth conversation with these women to find out what their thought pattern was.
I truly believe that if we teach our children that relationships with married people are wrong, we can eliminate many of the affairs of tomorrow. It goes way beyond that, of course. Children need to learn compassion, empathy, and a myriad of other values as well. The bottom line for me is that if we eliminate the women that are willing to have affairs with married men, then the majority of the problem is solved!
What I really want to talk about are the women that are having affairs with these married men. The “mistresses” of Tiger Woods have been in the spotlight as much as Tiger. They have been rewarded with notoriety for their actions. The same can be said if the “girlfriends” of Jesse James. I have stated in a previous blog that I do not feel sorry for these men. Multiply that emotion by a thousand to see how I feel about the women they are sleeping with!
Why do these women feel the need to have an affair with a married man? Do they think they will become famous? Do they think the men will actually leave their wives for them? Was their childhood so troubled that they need to act out against society’s norms to achieve pleasure? Did their parents not teach them right from wrong? Did they witness their own father’s having affairs? I would love to have an in depth conversation with these women to find out what their thought pattern was.
I truly believe that if we teach our children that relationships with married people are wrong, we can eliminate many of the affairs of tomorrow. It goes way beyond that, of course. Children need to learn compassion, empathy, and a myriad of other values as well. The bottom line for me is that if we eliminate the women that are willing to have affairs with married men, then the majority of the problem is solved!
Friday, March 5, 2010
Highest Paid TV Star + Domestic Violence = Who Cares??
I must first state that this post was inspired by an NPR article by Frank Deford, found here: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=124238044
I heard Mr. Deford read his article while I was driving to work this week. His points resonated with me.
Charlie Sheen was involved in a domestic disturbance on Christmas with his wife, Brooke Mueller. Mueller alleges on a 911 call that Sheen wielded a knife and threatened her life. Sheen is the highest paid actor on television, earning $825,000 per episode of the hit series "Two and a Half Men". Deford believes that Charlie Sheen's recent domestic drama has been overlooked, while Tiger Woods' problems are highlighted in the media.
Deford's article highlights the differences between our society's response to each incident. Tiger Woods wears a scarlet letter. Charlie Sheen? Did anyone expect anything differently? Deford explains the difference in reactions through society's expectations between the behavior of actors and athletes.
I respectfully disagree with Mr. Deford. I was shocked and appalled when I learned of Sheen's behavior. Granted, I was not as shocked as I was by Woods' behavior though. Woods had seemed squeaky clean before his unraveling. This fact added to the shock. Sheen has been known as a bad boy for years.
I do not believe that America is any less appalled by Sheen's actions than by Woods' actions. Tiger Woods' drama was a more salable story in the media and was therefore promoted heavily. I urge Mr. Deford not to assume that what the media covers defines what America is interested in. My interests and morals go beyond what the media covers.
I heard Mr. Deford read his article while I was driving to work this week. His points resonated with me.
Charlie Sheen was involved in a domestic disturbance on Christmas with his wife, Brooke Mueller. Mueller alleges on a 911 call that Sheen wielded a knife and threatened her life. Sheen is the highest paid actor on television, earning $825,000 per episode of the hit series "Two and a Half Men". Deford believes that Charlie Sheen's recent domestic drama has been overlooked, while Tiger Woods' problems are highlighted in the media.
Deford's article highlights the differences between our society's response to each incident. Tiger Woods wears a scarlet letter. Charlie Sheen? Did anyone expect anything differently? Deford explains the difference in reactions through society's expectations between the behavior of actors and athletes.
I respectfully disagree with Mr. Deford. I was shocked and appalled when I learned of Sheen's behavior. Granted, I was not as shocked as I was by Woods' behavior though. Woods had seemed squeaky clean before his unraveling. This fact added to the shock. Sheen has been known as a bad boy for years.
I do not believe that America is any less appalled by Sheen's actions than by Woods' actions. Tiger Woods' drama was a more salable story in the media and was therefore promoted heavily. I urge Mr. Deford not to assume that what the media covers defines what America is interested in. My interests and morals go beyond what the media covers.
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Tiger Woods
Tiger Woods recently apologized. He publicly apologized to his fans and to his wife and family. What I wonder is if he is sorry that he cheated on his wife numerous times, or is he sorry that he got caught?
Personally, I found his apology to be very insincere. He seemed like he was reading a speech that was professionally written for him. It also seemed like he was coached on how to deliver the speech: when to look up, who to look at, voice inflection, etc.
He states the he believed "normal rules didn't apply" to him, the he was "entitled". I think that is the heart of the problem. Many celebrities and sports stars feel that same entitlement, I believe.
I am also angered by the spotlight that the media is giving to the mistresses of Tiger Woods. I don't believe these women deserve any attention for their acts. They knew he was married and therefore I believe they gave up any rights they may have been entitled to in such a situation. While I blame Tiger for this mess, these women are also to blame. If no one had agreed to sleep with a married man, there would be no story here.
Personally, I found his apology to be very insincere. He seemed like he was reading a speech that was professionally written for him. It also seemed like he was coached on how to deliver the speech: when to look up, who to look at, voice inflection, etc.
He states the he believed "normal rules didn't apply" to him, the he was "entitled". I think that is the heart of the problem. Many celebrities and sports stars feel that same entitlement, I believe.
I am also angered by the spotlight that the media is giving to the mistresses of Tiger Woods. I don't believe these women deserve any attention for their acts. They knew he was married and therefore I believe they gave up any rights they may have been entitled to in such a situation. While I blame Tiger for this mess, these women are also to blame. If no one had agreed to sleep with a married man, there would be no story here.
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
[(Jon + Kate) – Jon] + 8 / 2 = ?????
Keeping in line with my last post on infidelity, I want to address the mess we know as Jon and Kate Gosselin. For those of you who haven't heard, Jon and Kate Gosselin are the recently divorced couple who are parents to eight children. They are stars of the reality television show "Jon and Kate Plus Eight" on TLC.
What I find interesting is that men and women seem do have totally differing opinions on Jon Gosselin. Most women I've talked with detest Jon. They HATE him! Men, on the other hand, seem to understand where Jon is coming from. Keep in mind; this has only been an informal, unscientific poll of my friends and family.
When I asked my husband what he thought of the philandering star, he replied, "Look how his wife treated him for years!" Does her behavior then provoke his behavior, I wonder? Other male friends said that if Kate had taken care of Jon he wouldn’t have strayed. How can you take care of a husband, a television show, and eight children, I wonder? The consensus is that women side with Kate and men side with Jon.
Personally, I feel no sympathy for a man that fathered eight children and yet doesn’t have to work any longer. His so-called hardships are not that hard compared with the rest of America’s troubles. Yes, he has eight kids and is only 32 years old. Yes, he was unhappy in his marriage. But you know what? They were television stars that lived in a million dollar mansion and didn’t have to work outside the home. They could make raising their children their sole business and do very well at it.
I SHOULD BE SO LUCKY.
Get over yourself, Jon Gosselin. You were unhappy. SO WHAT. Millions of people are unhappier than you are. You were the winner of the “Child Lottery”. Not only did you have eight healthy, happy children, but they are children that support you!
What I find interesting is that men and women seem do have totally differing opinions on Jon Gosselin. Most women I've talked with detest Jon. They HATE him! Men, on the other hand, seem to understand where Jon is coming from. Keep in mind; this has only been an informal, unscientific poll of my friends and family.
When I asked my husband what he thought of the philandering star, he replied, "Look how his wife treated him for years!" Does her behavior then provoke his behavior, I wonder? Other male friends said that if Kate had taken care of Jon he wouldn’t have strayed. How can you take care of a husband, a television show, and eight children, I wonder? The consensus is that women side with Kate and men side with Jon.
Personally, I feel no sympathy for a man that fathered eight children and yet doesn’t have to work any longer. His so-called hardships are not that hard compared with the rest of America’s troubles. Yes, he has eight kids and is only 32 years old. Yes, he was unhappy in his marriage. But you know what? They were television stars that lived in a million dollar mansion and didn’t have to work outside the home. They could make raising their children their sole business and do very well at it.
I SHOULD BE SO LUCKY.
Get over yourself, Jon Gosselin. You were unhappy. SO WHAT. Millions of people are unhappier than you are. You were the winner of the “Child Lottery”. Not only did you have eight healthy, happy children, but they are children that support you!
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Welcome to my blog!
My name is Candace Pierce. I am 37 years old and live in Raeford, NC. I am married to a wonderful man named John. Together we have two children. Our son, Thomas, is 5 years old and our daughter, Addison, is 3 years old.
I am a senior at East Carolina University, majoring in Information Technologies. I plan to graduate this summer. I also work as a tech in the Information Technology Department for Hoke County.
I have been contemplating starting a blog for some time. I am excited that I get to do so for BITE 5200 this semester.
My topic for my first blog will be infidelity in marriage. It is a very random topic, indeed. I want some things to get off my chest, however. Listen to my video if you want to hear more!
I am a senior at East Carolina University, majoring in Information Technologies. I plan to graduate this summer. I also work as a tech in the Information Technology Department for Hoke County.
I have been contemplating starting a blog for some time. I am excited that I get to do so for BITE 5200 this semester.
My topic for my first blog will be infidelity in marriage. It is a very random topic, indeed. I want some things to get off my chest, however. Listen to my video if you want to hear more!
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